Mix virtue with knowledge and self-control––then place under pressure
Do you ever find yourself praying for patience? Did you know that the best way to develop patience is to be put in stressful situations over and over again until' you change your behavior?
It has not always been easy for me to be patient. There was a time when the least little inconvenience would send me over the edge. I once threw a tantrum in the San Francisco Airport when they wouldn't allow me to switch planes so I could upgrade my seat.
I was terrible in my 20's and 30's. I honked at people on the street when they didn't move fast enough after the stop light turned green. I tapped my foot and my fingers in line at the grocery store when a customer waited until' their groceries were bagged to retrieve the money from their wallet. I wasted my time and that of customer service professionals because I felt the need to take everyone to task each time there was a .35 cent error on a credit card bill.
Very seldom do I behave that way any more. However, I am a work in progress. After the last 3 years of working on myself to become a better person, it's getting easier to remain calm in stressful situations. It's not old age––It's the practice of patience.
My Pastor once said, "Patience is what you get when you mix VIRTUE with KNOWLEDGE and SELF-CONTROL, then place under PRESSURE."
Today when the person that you are working with starts to get on your nerves, or road rage threatens to inhabit your body and turn you into the Exorcist––take a breath and remember that it's only a test, and each time you fail is ground hog day. You just have to keep doing it over and over until' you get it right.
I welcome your thoughts.
By Crystal Wright
Author | Coach | Motivational Speaker
Crystal Wright is a self-help author, educator, motivational speaker and advisor. She is an internationally recognized expert on the subject of career building and marketing and regularly appears as a guest speaker and educator at trade shows and career building events.